2018 Reflections

As I reflect on 2018 on New Year’s Eve, and on why I became a Mad2Glad Parent Coach, I remember teaching Kindergarten and being surprised at the increasing numbers of children I’d see coming in with needs, and shocked at the types of violent incidents I’d witnessed and experienced by these little people.

This article summarizes it well: https://www.durhamregion.com/news-story/9073686-violence-is-durham-s-2018-education-newsmaker-of-the-year/

But most disenheartening was listening to the parents of these children ask me how I was going to fix “it”. Without parents as partners, I honestly didn’t know where to start, especially when they themselves were expressing helplessness. Technically, my job was to teach the Curriculum published by the Ministry of Education along with learning skills that get reported on, and some developmentally appropriate self-regulation strategies so children can be ready to learn. And yes, there are support personnel in our schools but they are a resource, not a sole solution. The solution, I figured out, always starts within the safety and security of HOME.

I’ve always believed two things:

  1. A parent is a child’s first and forever teacher and knows them best. I’d often consult with parents as a source of information and experience when figuring out how to best serve their child as their teacher.
  2. All children have gifts. They each bring something awesome, beautiful and special to this world, and I believed it to be my job (with help from their parents) to tap into it and help motivate them to shine.

Becoming a Parent Coach was a calling, it was ignited by a clear need within my community, and a gap I plan to fill. I cannot imagine a better way to serve our children than by helping their parents build a secure and loving foundation for them at home.

I’m newly minted!!

Nikki has officially become a Mad2Glad Certified Parent Coach!! Her vision 6 months ago was “Ubuntu: I am because we are.”

As a teacher who recognized that children are WHOLE people, with experiences inside and OUTSIDE the classroom, her heart was heavy in knowing the limitations of a child specialist who can see parents are struggling but not having explicit instruction in how to guide them toward greater peace and collaboration with their child.

Now, she says, “as a Mad2Glad Certified Parent Coach I am in a position where I have advice for parents that don’t involve doctors, therapists or negativity in any way, and I put the power to improve their lives, their families and themselves in their own hands.”

“I also now have simple and solid advice for educators that may be counterintuitive to the way that they were taught but brings them such joy at the outcome of simple tiny tidbits of advice.”

“This program is more valuable to the wellbeing and balance for me, my family and my students than all my years of undergrad and graduate studies combined. Sign up and never look back!”

Nikki IS a lighthouse in the storm who is solid, reassuring and able to stand strong in her belief that ALL CHILDREN HAVE GIFTS and we only need to learn to draw them out.

The volunteer parents who Nikki coached during the experiential portion of this Certification program attributes their shift to her beautiful style and in-depth knowledge of the new parenting tools. They shifted from “anger, through-the-roof anxiety and nagging” to having a relationship with their children they “are proud to have!”

Nikki guided them to a space where now, “Our kids listen and we have fewer negotiations and power struggles. We are happier and more confident as a parenting team.”

We whole-heartedly agree with their praise that “Nikki is an incredible person who is full of encouragement, with an amazing ability to break parenting down into steps that change family dynamics so everyone is on the same page.”

Please CELEBRATE Nikki’s accomplishment and the GIFTS SHE BRINGS to the world!